New Book: What Do We Tell the Children?

Posted on August 22, 2013 by


My first book, What Do We Tell the Children? Talking to Kids About Death and Dying is now available everywhere through Abingdon Press. Click HERE to purchase on Amazon. The book is filled with stories about children who are grieving, healing, tools for how to support kids, and our need for a cultural change around death and dying.

Praise for the book:

The stories Primo tells are compelling and filled with many teachable moments about life and death. The book is encouraging for parents and others fearful of “doing it wrong” or (scarier still!) “having already done it wrong!” A must read for anyone caring for the grieving.  –Kate Braestrup, New York Times Best-Selling Author of Here If You Need Me


This wonderfully sensitive book is full of illustrative stories and gentle wisdom. Parents, teachers, and counselors will find it a necessary guide in engaging children in meaningful and needed discussions about death and loss. –Kenneth J. Doka, The College of New Rochelle; Senior Consultant, The Hospice Foundation of America

As a practicing physician and teacher working in hospice and palliative care, I believe that Primo provides a solid introduction for medical students and residents as they move into the responsibilities of supporting entire families, not just children, not just adults. I recommend What Do We Tell the Children? to those in all walks of life charged with the tough and tender task of supporting children in their grief. This will promote our work together for the children.Scott Long, Yale University School of Medicine and Physician at The Connecticut Hospice

This book is about the power of love and about overcoming our own anxiety, so that we can offer grieving children our compassionate presence and steady support as they create meaning in their own way and at their own pace.    – Deborah van Deusen Hunsinger, Princeton Theological Seminary

Joseph Primo’s book should be given to every military household who has lost someone.Michael Anthony, Iraq War veteran and author of Mass Casualties: A Young Medic’s True Story of Death, Deception, and Dishonor in Iraq

Joseph M. Primo is Executive Director of Good Grief, Inc. in Morristown and Princeton, New Jersey, and President of The National Alliance for Grieving Children. A graduate of Yale Divinity School and a former hospice chaplain, Primo is an author and blogger for the New Jersey Star-Ledger. He has appeared in or on CNN, ABC, Chicago Tribune, and FOX as a grief advocate. His essay, “The Business of Grief” appears in At the End of Life: True Stories About How We Death.

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